Tara Unverzagt February 8, 2019 No Comments

3 Spending Best Practices to Help You Feel Less Uncomfortable with Your Financial Situation

“How am I doing financially? Am I ok?” I hear these questions frequently. And there are other frequently asked questions. “Do I have enough money for emergencies?” “How will I pay for college for my kids?” “Can I afford to spend money for [fill in name of your dream money sink hole] now?” Whether they want to buy a new car or remodel their kitchen or they get a sinking feeling when the stock market drops, most people are uncomfortable regarding their finances. Frankly, being a little nervous about your finances is a sign that you’re paying attention which is good.

“If I buy this car now, will that impact my vacation plans?” Maybe. It’s not a simple question to answer. If you have read past articles, you’ll know that I’m a big proponent of “spend less than you make,” a concept that’s easy to understand and, oh, so difficult to execute. If you spend less than you make, you should have a stash of cash to use for things like buying a car — without needing to take out a car loan. Okay, so far?

Three concepts to consider when spending money

1. Money in the bank is for spending, right?

“If I have enough cash in the bank to pay for the car, I can afford it, right?” I used to run the numbers for people to see how reducing their net worth by $XX,XXX will impact their goals. Even that seemingly simple question may not have a simple answer. Sometimes, it’s easier to reach long term goals if you move the money for it out of your bank account and into a long-term saving account.

2. Don’t just consider THIS purchase.

Sharon and Steve like to cook. They spend all their free time in the kitchen. A big part of their budget is spent on food and pots & pans. They spend less than they make and have a budget that works for them. They asked me whether they can afford to remodel their kitchen to make it a really wonderful place to cook in. I looked at their lifestyles and how that expenditure might impact their overall objectives. The numbers said yes, they have been saving money and have no debt; they should be able to afford the new kitchen and still meet their other goals.

I also knew that, if they remodeled the kitchen, there was a good chance they’d go out for dinner and entertainment less because they’d be enjoying their new kitchen. I knew they wouldn’t be back next year asking whether they could afford to buy a fancy car or go on a luxury trip. Cooking is their passion, and the remodeled kitchen will help make their lives more enjoyable for years. Sharon and Steve aren’t spending to make themselves happy. They are already happy, and their new kitchen can help them enjoy their hobby even more.

Zach and Kimberly asked me whether they could afford to buy an expensive car. I looked at the numbers and, yes, they could afford to buy that car. It wouldn’t impact their long-term objectives much. But they always struggle to spend less than they earn. They often turned to debt to pay for things they want. Given their spending habits, they will likely be back next year wanting to take their family to Asia. The year after they will want to remodel the basement. Their list will go on and on.

The new car will make Zach and Kimberly happy right now, but they probably won’t really be satisfied or happy in the long run. They need to reflect on the “need” they are trying to satisfy and address that first. Are they just bored, looking to impress their friends, or in some other way not happy with their current car? Until they know the answers to those questions, they shouldn’t buy that expensive car.

When making any important decision about spending, you need to stop and think about your values and your long-term goals. Think about a major purchase you made five years ago. Do you even remember any? If you do, is it important today? Is there something you’d like to buy today that is more important than that was? What might you want to buy five or ten years in the future? Is that more important than what you’re thinking about buying today? Money spent today is money that you don’t have tomorrow for something that may be more important to you.

3. Money Doesn’t Buy You Happiness

Money enables you to have choices, but there’s no guarantee that it will make you happy. Much research has been done on people who received a windfall of money and spent it within a few years, buying everything they thought would make them happy. In the end none of those purchases increased their level of happiness at all, and they often ended up as poor as or poorer than they were before. (As a matter of fact, a study showed that even the neighbors of a lottery winner often ended up poorer in the long run, too!) What went wrong?

Someone recently said, “The people I know who ‘made it’ and are wealthy are the only people that know what money can’t do for you.” If you’re thinking “if I only had more money than…, I’d be” – happy, respected, secure; know that those feelings can’t be purchased by money. You have to find happiness yourself. And it could be as simple as changing the stories you tell yourself.

Your Budget Tells Your Story

Spending less than you make is the goal. If you find it difficult to achieve this consider what’s important in your life and make sure that every dollar is used to enrich your life and bring you satisfaction. We find that apps like YNAB can help you get organized, see where your money is going, and make sure you get the most out of every dollar. Take control of your spending and don’t let marketing, your friends, or your family make you feel badly about how you live your life and spend your money. Let your budget tell your story and be proud of it.

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This program allows us to easily serve as your financial coaches and help steer you in the right direction. We’ll accomplish this through a series of meetings in which we establish tangible goals to work towards, and discover your emotional drivers behind all of the decisions you make. By coupling your goals and your “Why?”, we’re able to help keep you on track by channeling your core values rather than just throwing numbers at you.

Once we’ve established your goals and your “Why?” we take a deep dive into your current financial life.

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Tara Unverzagt January 18, 2019 No Comments

Are You Ready to Start Saving Money?

Saving money doesn’t happen by accident. It doesn’t happen because you want it to happen. Saving money takes some thought, planning, and action on your part. As they say: the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. If aren’t saving and would like to, you need to find a new approach.

Bubble Gum Money vs Savings

Raising my kids, I gave them an allowance at a young age so they could learn about money. You can read more about teaching children financial skills in our article Saving Your Bubble Gum Money. In my house, bubble gum money was money the kids could spend immediately on anything they wanted. (My youngest used it mostly for buying bubble gum when she was under 5 years old.) But they also saved some of their allowances. They couldn’t touch “savings” unless there was something they were “saving” for. In a four-year old’s world “saving for the future” meant they had to wait at least a week before they were allowed to make the planned purchase.

If you see something and buy it, you should be using your bubble gum money. Otherwise, you should put money aside to save up to make important, large purchases that you’ve thought through carefully.

If all your money is bubble gum money, you’ll never accumulate assets that are needed for things like taking a year off work, buying a house, having kids, retiring.

You may not even have enough to pay for a simple vacation. Once you have learned the difference between bubble gum money purchases and planned expenses and transitions, you’ve taken your first step toward financial success.

Never fall in the trap of borrowing in order to “spend less than you make.” Any consumer purchase (furniture, a phone, a car, anything that does not increase in value) should be purchased with money from your savings. Borrowing (payment plans, leasing, etc.) to consume allows you to feel like you’re spending less than you’re making, but you aren’t. The credit card companies, banks, and stores love to convince you that “you can afford this low monthly payment.” Those “low monthly payments” can add up to big debt very quickly. Don’t fall for their trap.

Make Saving a Habit

How much should you save? There is no one answer to this question. It depends on your expenses, your income, your future plans, what’s going on in your life right now, etc. The rule of thumb is 10%-25% of your income should go to savings (and paying down debt). If you’re a single mom making $30,000 living in Los Angeles, CA, you are not likely to be able to save 10%. But save what you can. Save something. Anything. Even $10 weekly is better than nothing.

Saving is a habit. The first step is to integrate the habit into your life. When you get your pay check, put some into your saving account. It doesn’t matter how much–just do it. You can set it up to have it go automatically into savings without any thought.

When you get non-paycheck money, make it a habit to transfer a certain percentage to savings, such as $10 for every $100 you receive. When you get your tax refund, you’ll be in the habit and will put whatever percentage into savings. When you get a bonus at your job, you automatically save a percentage. Better yet, put is all in saving and give yourself some to splurge. Put the $100 in your saving account and give yourself $10 to blow on whatever you want. You weren’t expecting that money anyway.

A habit is a trigger, an action, and a reward. The trigger is “you receive money.” The action is “you put money into savings.” It’s important to have a reward to make the habit stick. You might check your saving account balance and have a happy feeling. You may see how close you are to reaching your goal. You may invest your cash every time you hit $1,000 (another good habit). A simple act like saying “ka-ching” like a cash register adding up the total, can be a reward. Find what works for you.

As you watch your saving account grow, or not, you should be motivated to save more. When you get to the point where the money comes in and the first thing you think is “put my savings away,” you’ve developed the habit. Congratulations!

Make a Savings Plan

There are three levels of savings: emergencies, opportunities, and asset accumulation. Your emergency fund allows you to have money on hand to take care of unexpected or anticipated, but not planned problems. Your opportunity fund allows you to have fun or take advantage of opportunities that come up. And asset accumulation allows your money to pay yourself at some point in the future.

We all find ourselves in a position that an unexpected expense pops up from time to time. Plan for it. If you want to stay away from the high cost of credit cards and pay day lenders, have an emergency fund to fill that need. If you want to have fun and not feel like you’re living paycheck to paycheck, have an opportunity fund. And if you want to one day have a choice to retire or cut back on working full-time, think about accumulating some wealth so you can pay your own paycheck.

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admin September 28, 2018 No Comments

Student Loans 101

Written by: Stuart Pyne, Associate Advisor at South Bay Financial Partners.

College is supposed to be “the best four years of your life,” filled with long hours at the library, meeting lifelong friends, and creating experiences you’ll have for the rest of your life. Simultaneously, it has also become “the most expensive four years of your life,” and, for most people, making decisions about financing your education, student loan options, and the inevitable debt begins at the ripe old age of 18. As a high schooler, you’re faced with one of life’s biggest decisions at a time when you’re still developing. Trying to decide what you want to do for the rest of your life can often seem daunting, but, nonetheless, you must make a decision. Deciding which school to go to and what to major in will have countless impacts on you for years to come.

As a recent graduate of Case Western Reserve University in 2016, I have found there is no worse feeling than having debt lingering over my shoulder, especially at the age of 22. Having learned from my mistakes–and my successes–I hope that this article will help those of you who are preparing yourself or a loved one to go to college. If I could go back and speak to 18-year-old Stuart, I would share some thoughts that I’ll cover in a series of articles starting with this one.

The Different Types of Student Loans

Student loans come in many different shapes and sizes. Before choosing any of them, you need to understand the differences among all of the options that you could be presented. They break down into two categories: federal and private.

Federal loans are offered through the U.S. Department of Education as either Direct Subsidized, Direct Unsubsidized, and Parent PLUS. Subsidized loans come with slightly more favorable terms but are strictly provided to students who meet the requirements of being in “financial need.” The main benefit to Subsidized loans is that they are offered at a low-cost and fixed rate, with the interest being paid by the government while you are in school, hence the term “subsidized”.

Unsubsidized loans are available to everyone and also come low-cost and at a fixed rate.  The key difference, however, is that the government does not pay for the interest that accrues on the loans while you are in school, which means you are on the hook for a larger bill.

Parent PLUS loans are available to parents who are paying for their dependent children’s college costs. Because they come with higher interest rates, students and parents need to utilize subsidized and unsubsidized loans before considering taking out a Parent PLUS loan.

On the other hand, private loans are taken out from banks, certain states, the college or university, and other non-bank financial institutions. The rates and repayment terms vary by institution, personal credit scores, income level, debt-to-income ratio, etc., very similar to any other loan you would take out from a private institution. Due to the lower costs and repayment terms of Federal loans, a general rule of thumb is to explore those first and then pursue Private loans after you have shopped them, to ensure that you get the best possible rates and terms.

Best Practices for Student Loans

Understanding different types of student loans is important but equally as important is knowing how to utilize them. Obviously, there are many different factors that will be in play, such as money or investments that can be used, eligibility for financial aid or scholarships/grants, and ability to work while in school, so each individual’s situation will be different. Your best option is to sit down with an expert and make your decision based on your personal situation, but I will lay out a general blueprint that you can follow when you are considering student loans.

If you qualify for Subsidized loans, it is of utmost importance to make sure you utilize these first, followed by Unsubsidized loans. Following those, you can consider private loans up to the amount that is needed to cover the total costs of attendance.

Note that if you don’t use a Direct Loan one year, you are not allowed to go back and reclaim it for the current year–they are very much “use it or lose it”. A common mistake people make is failing to budget their resources for all four years and running out of resources the final years and, consequently, being cornered into taking more expensive student loans.

If, for example, you have $20,000 saved and allocated for costs of attending, you’re better off allocating $5,000 per year to tuition from a 529 account in order to maximize the number of Direct Loans that you are eligible for. Below is a chart that shows how much in Direct Loans you are eligible to receive per year for an undergraduate student who is still a dependent of his or her parents.

 

$5,500 total, no more than $3,500 Subsidized $6,500 total, no more than $4,500 Subsidized $7,500 total, no more than $5,500 Subsidized $7,500 total, no more than $5,500 Subsidized
Year 1 Year 2 Year 3 Year 4

Considerations When Picking a College

There is absolutely nothing simple about college planning, and, unfortunately, understanding the types of student loans is only one piece of the puzzle. Deciding which college to attend goes beyond just a school ranking, location, major, etc. For best college planning, you must analyze all of your and/or your child’s financial and academic information to determine eligibility for need-based and merit-based financial aid, which can then be referenced against a list of schools to maximize scholarships. In addition, it’s important to understand the differences among schools and how they award financial aid.

The sooner you start planning for the cost of college the better. For parents, spending time planning when your children are young, picking the right school when they are in high school, and planning how you will fund each year can reduce the amount you may need to borrow and the types of loans you have access to.

Tara Unverzagt July 5, 2016 No Comments

I Want a Carefree Retirement

Knee deep in debt, Bob and Carol were trying to decide if they should raid their retirement account to pay for the rest of the kids’ college education or if they should take on more student loan debt. Both choices made them sick to their stomach to think about. Either way, they couldn’t see a comfortable retirement in their future. It’s a situation that’s all too common today.

Life was different during our grandparents’ era. My grandfather, for example, went to college and paid for it himself. He became a civil engineer. My grandmother owned a beauty salon and together they raised three children. All three kids went to college, paid for with cash from my grandpa’s job and savings and their children paid for part of the expenses with summer job money. All three kids went on to live very nice middle class lives. Grandpa retired to a life of leisure full of golf. Grandma’s retirement revolved around church, singing in the choir, helping her friends, and taking care of the house. They liked to travel, especially to Florida for the winter.

It would be lovely if that was how our lives went, but it isn’t, we’re more likely to be in Bob and Carol’s situation. In Grandpa’s days, having debt would have been an embarrassment as well as scary. Coming out of the Great Depression, you might buy something on lay away, where you paid a little every week until you fully paid for the item and took it home. Otherwise, owing someone money was frowned upon.

Somewhere along the way, the finance companies talked us into thinking it was ok to use debt to pay for everything. You could buy anything on a credit card and make low monthly payments. Nowadays, many don’t even own their car. You carry the debt for the car that’s owned by the dealer. [Debt can be helpful see Use Debt to Your Advantage]

Grandpa had it right by not using debt to pay for goods. Using debt to buy consumables like a car or everyday items will make you poor. Once you take on debt, your expenses go up with debt payments. A $25,000 car turns into a $450 per month payment for five years or over $28,000 total. If you saved that $450 per month BEFORE you bought your car and invested it, you would only need to put aside $22,500 and you could do it in just over four years. That’s almost a $6,000 difference. What could you do with $6,000?

For many of us, our retirement years will be very different than our grandparents’ retirement. My grandpa had a pension, plenty of savings, Social Security at 65, he didn’t have to deal with high health care costs, and was debt free his whole life. I don’t have a pension, won’t be eligible for full Social Security benefits until 67, will have to pay for more of my health care costs, and cope with a home mortgage. And many will be dealing with their kids’ college debt as they try to retire. We will have to work a lot harder to get that comfortable, carefree life, plus we will live much longer lives than previous generations. How will we fill all those extra years and how will we pay for them?

Some people don’t want to retire at 65, they love what they do. My advice to these people is keep working. There’s a good chance you can work until 70 or even 80 and still have plenty of years to relax in retirement. The extra money will help finance those extra years. If you’re to the point where you need a change, consider a completely different job using the expertise you’ve gained. For example, you could teach math instead of working as an engineer. You could also consider a more relaxed job involving a hobby. One of my clients loved playing tennis and ran the club house at his tennis club when he retired. He was able to see his friends, make a little money, and play tennis for free. Or if you’ve saved enough to last a long retirement, you could consider volunteering at a charity that inspires you. You won’t make money, but will have purpose in life which research has shown is a key component to successful aging.

So why do we need to work longer these days than in Grandpa’s time? A lot of factors come into play. The only retirement plan most of us have today are the ones we fund. Companies decided they didn’t want to take on the risk of investment markets not doing well, so they pushed the risk on their employees. Healthcare costs have gone up and companies push more of the cost to the employees. More people are self-employed where you pay for everything and everything is going up in price.

Life has become much more complicated to manage. Today, we expect to have choices. Some people want to be able to pay more for insurance to go the doctor of our choice while others want to save money on their insurance and don’t care which doctor they go to. While choices are good it can be hard to know which choice is right for you.

The truth is, your retirement success is not affected as much by the outside world, as by your spending and saving habits. Just like always, spending less than you make leads to financial success. If you lose a job, you have to cut back. If college is too expensive, you can to consider a less expensive college, try two years at a community college (no one asks where you completed your Freshmen and Sophomore year), or have your child participate in a work/study program to help pay the cost of college. A much bigger part of your paycheck goes to healthcare which means you have to cut back somewhere else. Your car? Your home? Your hobbies? You have to choose insurance and retirement programs to meet your needs. That takes education and planning.

Take a moment to visualize your future self. What do you want your life to be like? Feel how comfortable life would be if you could choose to work, play golf, or travel. Then look at what could get in the way of getting to that retirement. What can you do now, in the next year that is totally achievable to help make sure you achieve that retirement? Is your comfortable retirement worth enough to make a commitment to your one year plan? When you’re tempted to spend money on those lower priority items, think about your future self and consider “paying” him/her by putting that money in your savings account instead.

Control your spending and save for your future. Think about working a little longer since you’re going to live a little longer. You too can have that comfortable retirement that my grandparents lived.

Contact me if you’d like a carefree retirement.

To find out ways to invest for retirement, check out Part 2: Index funds are safe, right?

Photo by Extra Zebra; https://www.flickr.com/photos/23438569@N02/

 

Tara Unverzagt June 22, 2016 No Comments

What About RoboAdvisors?

RoboAdvisors have become popular recently. They provide a way for you to input what your goals are and the RoboAdvisor will come up with a plan just for you (and a million other people just like you). They are popular because they’re pretty easy to get started and their fees are very cheap, far cheaper than personal advisor. And they do a good job for what they do. I had a conversation with my hair stylist yesterday about why you might want a “person” to be your advisor.

In the middle of the conversation, another stylist came over to get advice on what color to use on her client. She said her client wanted highlights, but thought her ends (her last highlight color) were too light, she wanted darker highlights this time. The stylist was confused because the ends were the color that she would have picked for the client also.

My stylist said that perhaps the ends were the right color, but there was too much of that color. He pointed out that sometimes when clients say a color is too light, it’s really just that they want less of that color, not a darker color. My stylist pointed out a way to help the client get more information so she could make the right decision. The other stylist walked away to review the choices with her client.

After the other stylist left, I said “And THAT is why a RoboAdvisor isn’t the best solution for everyone. Sometimes, a client misunderstands what the issues are. A robot can’t have that discussion with you.”

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Tara Unverzagt April 4, 2016 No Comments

Use Debt to Your Advantage

Debt has fueled much of the growth in the world over the last four decades. Debt has made many business owners, investors, and individuals wealthy. But debt has also been the ruin of many businesses, investors, and individuals.

The “final exam” of my MBA involved a business simulation. Each study group was tasked to run a business manufacturing hairdryers. My study group was mostly made up of bankers. When our door shut at the start, the bankers immediately said, “We need to get a line of credit.” I said, “We’re starting with a lot of available cash.” They explained that bankers only loan you money when you have money. At some point down the road, we may need money, but we should secure it in the beginning. That 10 minutes was more valuable to me than the two years that led up to it. Indeed, “down the road” the hairdryer market was booming, but we didn’t have enough cash to build a new plant. That line of credit provided the opportunity to grow our business. Our study group ended with millions of dollars more than any other study group. We had that line of credit right when we needed it while the others were just starting to negotiate with the banks.

This was a lesson in how debt can make you wealthy. The other side of that coin occurred as the housing boom went bust in 2008. There were a lot of people who borrowed money to buy a house, but didn’t have the funds to pay the debt. They lost their house and their wealth.

Debt helps magnify your return. If you want to buy a house, most people can purchase a bigger house with a loan than if they only used savings to purchase the house. If the value of that house goes up, there is a larger gain on the larger investment. But if the value of that house goes down, there is a larger loss.

So how do you use debt to your advantage? As the bankers in my MBA study group pointed out, you will only get debt when you have money. The more money you have, the more debt you will be allowed to carry. If you think like a banker, and only incur debt that you can pay off, you can use it to your advantage.

You can’t predict what’s going to happen to the housing market in the next 2-5 years, but the longer you are in the housing market, the more likely you are to see the value grow above what you invested. If you plan to stay in the housing market for the long haul, it’s fine to incur debt to purchase your home. But make sure you have enough funds to pay the mortgage for 6-12 months, even if you lose your job. This should be part of your Emergency Fund. If you don’t have enough savings to make future mortgage payments, you may find yourself in the position that so many people did in 2008 and risk losing your home.

When you buy a car, you do not typically expect it to increase in value. As a matter of fact, as soon as you drive a new car off the lot, it loses value. Buying a car with debt increases the cost of the car and therefore increases your loss. If you have a 10%, five year loan on your $20,000 car, you are really paying $25,500 for the car. In addition to the decrease in the value of the car, you are losing an extra $5,500 from interest payments. Many people lease a car instead of buying. Keep in mind this is just building the loan costs into the price of the car. Typically it’s easy to hide higher loan costs in the “low” monthly payments of a lease agreement. The more expensive the car, the more you lose in value and interest paid.

In order to sell more cars, dealers often offer 0% loan deals. This can be a way of using debt to your advantage. If you can get a 0% loan for $20,000 and then invest that money in a bond giving you 4%, you win. Make sure you have the $20,000 to pay off the loan. If the 0% interest is only for a limited time, pay the balance as soon as the interest rate goes up. Typically, if you miss a payment, you will pay high fees and/or the interest charges. So make those payments.

Bottom line, you can use debt to make money, but you can also lose money with debt. Follow some basic guidelines to use debt to your advantage.

  • Make sure you have the cash to pay the debt on time. For long term debt, have enough in cash to make payments for 6-12 months.
  • Use debt to increase your income, like paying for college tuition, but not for consumables like going out to eat or a nicer apartment.
  • Use debt when you can invest those funds at a higher return or in a business that can make more income than the cost of the debt.
  • If the item you purchase is not an investment that can increase in value, pay cash.

Debt always increases risk, but the risk can be managed if debt is used wisely.

 

All information provided is general in nature and not meant to be advice for you in particular. If you’d like to know more about how this topic relates to your situation, contact me at tara@southbayfinancialpartners.com

admin December 18, 2015 No Comments

Saving Your Bubble Gum Money

“It’s just not worth $60 to go to [a famous amusement park].” It’s a proud moment when a Financial Planner Mom hears this from her child.

I started teaching my kids financial skills where most financial planners will tell you to start, with an allowance. I started when they were about three. They received three-quarters that would be split between three jars. One was for spending (we called that “bubble gum money”), one for long term savings (in a two-year old’s world that means a week or longer), and one for charity. I let them split their quarters among the three jars however they like.

In the beginning the quarters were basically randomly deposited. I knew over time they would start to understand how different decisions would impact future options. I didn’t guide them because really, how big are mistakes a three year old can make verses how big the life lessons to be learned are?

Bubble gum money could be spent whenever and wherever. In the beginning, my youngest did spend most of her money on bubble gum.

The “long term savings” could only be “saved up” for bigger purchases. My requirement was that nothing was spent the same week the item was discovered. If they wanted that Lego™ set and had the money to buy it, they had to wait until the next week. They learned that impulse purchases were sometimes not the best financial decisions. Many angry moments led to a change of heart. In the moment, it was the only thing that would make them truly happy, but upon reflection they realized the happiness would be fleeting. On the other hand, there were times when the following week they still wanted to use their money for that Lego™ set and we’d go buy it.

Eventually, they started saving their bubble gum money. They realized bubble gum now was not nearly as rewarding as something big later. Shortly after, I started adding to their allowance. I gave them the birthday party budget. They could have a party or could use it to take a friend to Disneyland. Or they could save it to use for something else if celebrating their birthday was a low priority.

If the choice is a birthday party or no birthday party, who wouldn’t take the birthday party. But if the choice is a birthday party or saving for an iphone or xbox gaming system, there’s some serious thinking to be done. I also gave them the clothes, movie, and dance budget to use as they like. Empower your kids to make those financial decisions. They learn best through experience.

Kids who are older can still learn how to make financial decisions. With older kids still at home, sit down and negotiate an allowance. While it might take time and effort to figure out how much and what it covers, make sure you stick to giving them only the allowance. They may be sad or mad they can’t afford something, but help them realize they can save up by reducing their spending in areas that are less important to them. They can also look into getting a job to have more money available to them. If something is really important, they will figure out a way to save for it.

Adult children may need help learning to live within their salary. You are doing them a disservice by buying them a house they can’t afford or loaning them money for a nice, new car. Making loan payments is no easier than saving a little each month for their next car. Help them open a money market account to keep that money until they need their next car. It is hard to say “no” to your children, but know that they will be happier in the long run if they are financially secure.

The foundation of making financial decisions is understanding that you have a finite amount of money. If you choose to spend money today, you won’t have it available for tomorrow. As adults, our “long term” spending isn’t a week, but years or decades. Is that new car more important than your child’s education? Can you afford to do both? How about retirement? Are you going to put your children through college and then expect them to put you through retirement because you don’t have enough money left over?